- Giving Up On the Dance - I have to give major props to Dude for being completely willing to learn what I originally had in mind, despite the fact that he has two left feet and knew that he would look awkward. We had three sessions of learning the dance, and Dude learned fairly quickly, but was still looking and dancing a little awkwardly. And he stepped on my feet. Twice. I love him for volunteering, but I thought it unfair to ask him to look awkward at his own wedding. I didn't want him to stress and worry about learning choreography. So we are going with a good old fashioned clutch and sway first dance.
- The Veil - I made a veil, and it turned out well, but I've decided I don't want to wear it. Because I just don't want to. Some people have given me trouble about it, because apparently I'm not going to feel bridal unless I wear a veil, but that's stupid reasoning. If wearing a veil makes you feel bridal, then more power to you, and I'm happy for you. But it's not for me. I was only wearing it because Dude asked me to. I'm going to feel bridal because I will be wearing a dress I would never wear unless it was my wedding day, and I will have paid more money to get my hair and makeup done than I'll ever pay again in my life. And, oh yeah, because it will be my wedding day.
- The Ring Pillow - I made one, and it was... not fine. So I bought one from Etsy, and it's pretty, and maybe I can lend it to one of my other friends who is getting married.
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4 comments:
none of those are bad decisions! they're the ones that worked for you.
right with you on the veil thing, and the pillow. We were sent a drop veil and ring pillow with the Veluz dress- used the pillow because I couldn't care less what it was; and while the drop veil was pretty I couldn't imagine it. The veil I did have was the only one I could stand! And no veil is more than fine too :)
Hey, let me know if you need anything! I know it gets crazy right about now...
Good for you for just dealing with it! There is so much pressure for everything to be Perfect that it is tempting to fall in a heap every time something needs to be changed. But let's face it, when the ring goes on your finger you're not going to be thinking, "This would be so much more SPECIAL if I'd hand-crafted the ring pillow out of my grandmother's wedding dress and bedazzled it with emeralds I dug out of the rock."
Mom says,
Whatever you do is fine. Whatever makes you and Dude happy. It is YOUR wedding. Do what is comfortable for you and him.
I tried to teach him to dance, but you will eventually, with effort. Dude's dad will finally dance with me, occasionally. It only took 30 years.
@sweet t- shoot, if i had known you had a ring pillow i would have asked you to bring it.
@jessica - i laughed at your last line. you're completely right, and there's such a mean streak in some of the boards if you don't diy everything.
@mom - dude made a very admirable effort at the dance. but - i don't think we'll be dancing together other than slow dances. he has as much enthusiasm to dance as i have to swim. that's okay with us though.
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