HIT: The "Feel"
Dude and I are easygoing, funloving people who don't take ourselves too seriously or are particularly sentimental. So it was really important to us that there wasn't too much emotion during the day. We completely understand that people have different reactions to weddings, but we wanted it to be fun. All of it.
So we put in a lot of work to make it that way. We made sure the ceremony wasn't too sappy and stressed equality in the union above all else. The songs chosen were nontraditional and somewhat funny at times. We wanted to make sure that the day was filled with laughter, not tears, even if they are tears of joy.
MISS: The Details
Dude and I are not detailed oriented. I mean, we can be, with respect to our jobs and things like that. But when it came to wedding, details are just not something we cared about. So it was really, really stressful to both of us when people would ask us questions during the day. If we hadn't thought about it by then, we didn't care about it, or completely delegated it to someone else. So when my aunt came running up and said "Do you like these shoes or those shoes?" I said "Whatever you want." When the photographer said "Do you think we should go here for pictures?" I said "Whatever you want." Then he looked at me and said, "Do you have an invitation I can take a photo of?" I said, "Uh, no... sorry."
And on and on it went. At one point I really wanted to just scream "How many ways can I say 'Whatever you want' before you realize that that's exactly what I mean? I just. Don't. Care!" (I didn't.)
We are only a few days removed from the festivities, and I don't remember a lot of the details. However I remember the feeling that everyone was having a good time. I remember that the tables were empty and people were either mingling with each other or dancing like maniacs. And I remember that Dude and I had a great time, and professed our love for each other in the manner that is completely appropriate for us. And, that's all that really matters to us.
New Year, New Blog!
16 years ago
2 comments:
I have to admit, I linked to your post about Miss California and got totally sucked in! I'm getting married in a few weeks, and this post especially calmed me down a lot. There's all kind of crap that people keep asking me about, but what I care most about is the feel, so it was nice to hear that the details are not an integral part of the "feel"!
@alison - welcome and thanks for reading! as far as i'm concerned there is only one detail necessary for the wedding, and that's the signing of the marriage license. good luck with your nuptuals!
Post a Comment