- We live in a non-doorman building in Manhattan. We have a lot of trouble getting packages... usually Fedex and UPS will not even leave a notice on the door, and just send me an email saying they will come back tomorrow until they eventually send packages back or one of us stays at home. Clearly, we can't be sitting around at home waiting for registry gifts. What do we do? Do we get a mailbox at the post office or at Mailboxes Etc.?
- Do we need a contract to get a photographer to do engagement photos?
- Do we need contracts for everything?
- Some of my best friends are my roommates from college, who are all guys. Is it okay to invite them to the bachelorette party, or is it creepy? I feel like not inviting them would be a slight, and they're not great friends with Dude.
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Don't freak out.
1. We have this same problem. One option is to have them ship it to a work address where someone can receive it at all times. We're probably going to do this, since I don't like those Mailbox Etc. places. The people that work there are creepy, always.
2. We didn't have one for engagement photos, no need. Met him, took pictures, paid. But when we hired him for the wedding then definitely had a contract!
3. Contracts for EVERYTHING. Especially if the wedding is more than a year out.
4. Girl, this is the last thing you should be worrying about at this point. But basically, why not invite them? My party will be co-ed, especially because Nick is, well...Nick. You don't have to let old school traditions get in the way of you doing what you want!
I highly suggest two things:
- Buying the Bridal Bargains book. Best and only planning book you need.
- availing yourself of the resources on the Indiebride boards. They've got a lot, especially for NY metro area brides.
xo
1. i had all wedding gifts shipped to my parents' house because my dad was home and they live in the suburbs. plus, you're going to want to leave a bunch of the crap you get at your rents house anyway because your apt in manhattan is not going to be able to handle all those gifts (shower, bachelorette, wedding).
2. you probably should, though the contract can be as simple as a piece of paper saying she/he isn't going to fuck you over.
3. mostly everything yes. again, with the getting fucked.
4. i would talk about having a co-ed bridal party. i know it takes away all the prime opportunities to give macaroni shaped like penises and make out with disgusting boys at Egypt, but truth be told if you have good guy friends that you want to celebrate with by having them wear penis veils, then i would have a co-ed party.
ick... i must be on crack
@words and steel - i will likely join the boards at kvetch but i have shied away from them, i really don't like the drama.
@craziasian - we were trying to avoid funneling the presents through the parents but it seems like we will have to, so thanks for the suggestion.
1.) I think you are going to have to use your parents. I know it sucks, I didn't want to either (I want to PLAY with them!) but it really is easiest.
2.) I always thought engagement photos were a good way of "testing" the photog. I don't think you need to sign a contract to have "her" do the wedding if you don't like her.
3.) Contracts ensure your safety. pain in the ass and scary, but it's nice to know that they can't back out either.
4.) It's your party. You can invite whomever - JUST NOT THE GROOM. ;-) (Just kidding, you can invite him too - whomever YOU want)
ooh, what drama on the kvetch boards? honestly, i'm in and out on those things. ask my questions and peace out!
@wordsandsteel - just from digging through the nyc boards, there's a lot of helpful advice but some cattiness too. i just don't want to hear it.
1. Parent's house is good if they're okay with it. Not many good choices here.
2. Good idea. You really need a caveat if you don't like any of the pictues. You should only have to pay if the pix are what you really want. Good time to try out a wedding photo person and make sure the he/she can do great pix with any kind of lighting!
3. Definitely for any pros you are hiring or venues you are renting.
4. Do what your heart tells you to do. If still not sure, okay it with Dude. Spouses always hear about the parties, usually from your closest sworn-to-silence friends.
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