There is no theme to my wedding.
I refuse to have one or two words define the mood, I will not match everything, and it's very likely that what we end up having will not make any sense to anybody there. But that doesn't matter... it will make sense to me and Dude.
After we got engaged, I mistakenly used the term "whimsical" to my mom, but what I really meant was "non-traditional". But, that's not entirely true either. We are using some traditional elements (not a lot, but some) and some non-traditional. Our sites are modern and my dress is kind of romantic and vintagey. We'll do a cake cutting, but no bouquet toss (that is a post for another day).
We are not throwing a wedding with a theme. We are throwing a party and the theme is wedding.
More than a few people have given me weird looks when I try to explain this.
One of my friends said it best, as she tried to calm me down after a particularly frustrating day. She said that some people are really, really, really into personalizing their weddings, and if you don't either, then they view it as a reflection of your (poor) taste.
You know what? I do have poor taste. I hang on to old clothes and old furniture and there is no cohesive design to my apartment. The Queer Eye guys (remember those guys?) and Tim Gunn would certainly frown on me. But that's me. I never claimed to be a classy lady. I like things that are comfortable and things that make me laugh. I prefer to invest in nice electronics and books rather than clothes and accessories. I have kind of a sick sense of humor. I don't really have any romantic sensibilities and I hate hate hate kissing pictures.
To me, a great ceremony is one in which people are giggling and laughing, not crying and sentimental.
Now that I've said it... let's boogie.
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3 comments:
at first reading i thought you wrote "let's boggle". and i was like "is rosy boggling without me?" and it made me sad.
but boogie makes more sense.
and i think you have good taste. i mean, you picked ME as a friend. har har har.
I've blogged on wedding themes too. I guess they can be helpful for some people to envision what they want, but there is a fine line to overboard CRAZINESS. You better tell me if I cross that line, dude!
@craziasian, i would not boggle without you, though i probably wouldn't boggle at all because you'd kick my butt.
@words - you're not crossing any line, i would tell you. i've said it before and it's totally true, that despite all my complaining, i truly believe it is the bride's day and she should do whatever she wants. what i'm struggling with is the expectation that i have to do the same thing. i just don't care enough to make it that way. all i want is to have a good time.
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